Tuesday, March 24, 2009

21 and Single

“Why are you so restless these days?” asked a friend recently. How can you be calm and composed when there are a few shitty metal bands performing in front of you? (It was our college fest.) Anyway, the reason why this comment was made was because I was loitering around in the ground aimlessly, and might I add, alone.

To be honest, I had not realized it till I was told about it. And then I read somewhere how pitiful it was to be “21 and single”. It was then that I realised the cause of my restlessness, at least I think it was the reason. There were some couples around on the given day and there was no dearth of PDA (Public Display of Affection). I have nothing against PDA personally but it sort of drives home the fact that you are ‘you know what’ when it is done right on your face.

What is it actually like to be “21 and single”? Let’s analyze.


•The same friend mentioned above had earlier said, “It’s cool to be single. Then, you can roam about with anyone you want without any eyebrows being raised.”
•You are a free bird. Do what you want as there are neither restrictions nor bodyguards (usually for girls).
•You can flirt with anyone you want.
•There's no such thing as an argument. After all you need someone to argue with.
•You can freely expand your social circle.
•You save tons of money which you would have spent on stuff like gifts(flowers, jewellery and the like), dinners etc.


•When you see other couples getting all mushy, you go “Why? Why? Why can’t I get hold of that love potion they show in cartoons?”
•When you happen to meet some beautiful person who happens to not be available, you're faced with morally repugnant possibilities and are in a state of confusion.
•It gets kind of lonely at times. But then, don’t forget you are in a crowd.
•You have to hunt for dates for parties and special occasions.
•You wonder why no one gives you any gifts. “I want a teddy bear.”
•You tend to lose self-confidence. You end up thinking you are useless, boring and millions of other negative things.
•When the teacher teaches about 'Single Couple' mechanism in Seismology, you go like, “What the f**k is that supposed to mean?

And finally, it is that classic joke to console yourself.

Pessimist: Teen saal college ke baad maine ek bhi ladki nahi patayi.

Optimist: Teen saal college ke baad mujhe ek bhi ladki nahi pata payi. 


Devdeep said...

So many people are writing about this these days that it makes me feel that its really 'bad' to stay single.
"It gets kind of lonely at times."
Please don't say that with all of us around you. After all what is the problem in staying single? Remember 'the grass is always greener on the other side.'

"You tend to lose self-confidence. You end up thinking you are useless, boring and millions of other negative things." Now why is that? You have so many 'male' friends since school days and several 'female' friends as well. How are they sticking with you if you were so? Negative thoughts should not arise just because you haven't found your soul-mate yet. Remember, getting rich is the prime objective. Rest all is secondary. Or being a geophysicist, you already think you will complete the prime objective?

Sukhi said...

Well, I agree with one point- " at times it could feel lonely". Other than that, the pros far out weigh the cons.

The compromises seem to be too much for me. The partner should be highly understanding and give enough space. Until then, be happy and keep searching....

Wierdo said...

Well, its nice to see u discussing such stuff, but some of the things are totally vague...
Now, as far as i can remember you are never lonely.... and regarding treats i believe you enjoy them atleast once every week.
Now, when you have all these why look for a partner....??

ARB said...

i cant believe u just wrote this :P
well, these things..u can say are
2 sides of the same coin..u never know on which side u want to be....
but whichever side u r in, make the best use of it

Smart Primate said...

@ vijit

who's looking for treats? I am happy I don't need to spend any money on them...

why can't you believe i wrote it?

@ DD
who was the guy desperate for a girlfriend a couple of days ago? 'Girlfriend Dilao' is what you had said about a hundred times...

Mohit Sureka said...

i so back u on this bro...just the same fuckking frame of mind m in...

Saffrondude said...

Lovely.. But why the hell would you want a teddy bear?!?!

Oh btw even I have felt most of the things you wrote about so yeah, another member of the "I'm 21 and single" club here..

Smart Primate said...

I sympathize...

@ Saffrondude

I want a teddy bear because I have never had one. Welcome to the club. The BBC (Bosco Bachelors' Club) still going strong I see.

SHADE said...

"shitty".... "SHITTY" u say ???
ur ignorance earns sympathy 4m me (and those who went in the concert 2 pay more attention 2 the MUSIC),not contempt....

coming back 2 the main topic,you seemed to have not taken heed of the immortal Murphy's Laws as i so sternly warned the world about....Some beer should alleviate ur mental ( or cardiac ?) condition i guess :P

Smart Primate said...

@ shade

If the music had been awesome (to me), why would my mind wander in any other direction. I would simply enjoy the show.

Beer huh???